For those that have sent an email asking where I've been, thank you! It's nice to be missed :)
Today I'll explain why school is such a struggle for us and why it takes up so much of my time. Way more than the average homeschool situation. If you are not the type that likes to hear 'personal stuff' in blogs and would rather just hear about quilting--well come back next week. I know that several of you homeschool though and it helps to know that there are others out there that completely understand. Ok, here is a bit of Seth's homeschool story....
Our homeschool schedule is not the norm of most school kids. I have been in a 5 year battle concerning my 14 yr old sons schooling. Sadly he is a child that suffers from divorced parents and his schooling has taken the brunt of it. I tried 5 years ago to put him in school when he was in 3rd grade and it was a horrible experience. Seth's father doesn't like school (him and his brother and some nieces and nephews all dropped out), and therefore he tried everything to keep Seth from going to public school. It was a hard time as I was a single mom, working full time and trying to homeschool the best I could. Seth only lasted 2 months at school before I just had to bring him home.
After bringing him home I insisted that his father help me. Custody is 50/50 so Seth spent half his time at his fathers house. His papers would come home in his dad's handwriting. Seth never did his own work--especially math! I would blow up and accuse his father and he'd say, "We did it orally". I struggled with this situation until last winter when I could not take it anymore. I called DFS, I called legal aide. Seth was so behind in school and it stressed me so much. His father had quit doing school with him all together and Seth would call all upset that he didn't understand math. (This is when I found out that his dad didn't graduate high school--he admitted it to Seth and I never even knew! And I was letting him 'teach' our son?!)
So, anyway, I sent a 'here's how it is going to be' letter last winter. Seth's father took it to his lawyer...and guess what? His lawyer wouldn't touch it and told Seth's father that he had better just accept what I lined out. He told him that it looked like I was just thinking in Seth's best interest. LOL--his dad was mad about it and spouted off the whole conversation to me in anger which just made me a bit more smug than I should have been. VICTORY!
Now Seth is at my house for 10 days and his dad's for 5...there are exceptions at Christmas, spring and summer. Time is still 'even'. I just get my bulk during the school year. I still don't get the 180 days to school my son that other people get. AND we are also behind and trying to make up.
Seth is in 8th grade and is working through Saxon 7/6. (Which is really a 6th grade book.) He's still in his 7th grade history and science book as well. On the ten days he's here we do school 9 of them. He doesn't get a full weekend off even. Well...usually he does and then we kill ourselves to make up for it. He has friends that I want him to hang around. It's not his fault that he's behind.
Every school day, We do 2 entire math lessons. Those are the worst. He's smart but he's got a lot of catching up to do. We do one lesson in the morning and one in the afternoon. We don't work extra in science or history for now. We are just happy to be doing them as we should and not getting further behind. Between trying to do normal house stuff like cooking, dishes, cleaning and laundry AND having a toddler underfoot, blogging takes a back burner while Seth is home. So does sewing. Haven't touched it since last Sunday :(
BUT--Seth is slowly catching up. And feeling better about himself. That is the best part of it all and worth it. We are hoping that by Christmas break he'll be in the next Math and science book. That will give him a great boost of confidence.
So, if you have read this far, thanks for listening. Now you know why I am not around much for now. But I'll be back!